A school in
Scotland has reportedly “banned” some parents from entering the playground at drop-off in the morning because it can make children “extremely overwhelmed and upset”.
Troon Primary School in South Ayrshire said pupils had been negatively affected by the number of adults in the playground – and asked carers of older children to drop them off at the school gates, instead.
Headteacher Aileen Roan said it would help provide children in Years 2 to 7 with a “settled start”, so they could “line up quietly and start their day well”. She also said it would allow kids to become “more independent”.
Commenting on the decision, a council spokesperson told the Telegraph parents of younger children would be welcome to accompany their child into the playground “until they are more confident”.
However, some parents of children at the primary school believe many would “rebel” against the request – and here’s the thing: I would, too. Ever since my daughter started school, I’ve taken her to the door of her classroom on the days I don’t have to rush to work. We hug, kiss and I tell her I love her before she disappears, waving, through the door. She kisses and hugs her little brother, too. We do exactly the same when I pick her up.
It’s a vital, connected part of our day, and I’d miss it terribly if it disappeared.
But I wanted to be as impartial as possible, so I asked her what she thought. After all, if schools say their kids are stressed and overwhelmed by too many parents thronging in the playground, it would be remiss to ignore that as a possibility.
My 7-year-old acknowledged it is “quite crazy” in the playground, at pick-up after school time particularly, but said it was “important” for us to be there.
“How would you tell my teacher if I felt upset or had a tummy-ache from the gate?” she said to me. “Or if someone else was going to pick me up? I’d never get to go on any playdates!”[Read more: Stacey Solomon Has ‘Gut-Wrenching’ Mum Guilt And I Know Exactly Where She’s Coming From]
And when I asked her how she would feel about it, her eyes grew wide and serious. “I wouldn’t like it,” she said immediately, shaking her head. “Because I love you and I want a cuddle.”
That’s the thing. No matter what year they’re in, kids need cuddles and an “I love you” – reassurance that you’re going to miss them, and that they’re safe and loved.
You can do that from home, of course, or at the door when you drop them off at breakfast club – many parents simply can’t make the morning drop-off at all – but in the middle of a crowd of hundreds of parents queuing up at the same time at the same, tiny, gated entrance? Not so easy.
And with reports telling us that children’s happiness is at a sobering 10-year low, I think it’s vital we hold on to the tiny things that make our kids feel loved, for as long as we can.
Even if it’s just the few, extra, precious seconds I get walking hand-in-hand with my little girl to see her into her classroom.
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