Going on holiday is sometimes a necessity rather than a luxury, especially if you're working hard and needing a break but usually your getaway will be planned to suit both you and your significant other. While solo trips can be fun, most people probably wouldn't ditch their significant other in order to jet off to a foreign country, just because they couldn't afford the holiday . One man took to Reddit to confess he'd done exactly that, booked a holiday without his girlfriend because she wasn't able to afford the trip to
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Twitter . Commenters said after five years he should have been more considerate (stock image) ( Image: Getty Images) On the site's ' Am I The A*****e' subreddit, the 24-year-old wrote: "I’m someone who has dreamed of going to Japan for the longest time. I have told this to my girlfriend a couple of times before during our relationship. "Between us, I’m more capable of traveling because I’m the one who earns more. I had this intense urge to travel to Japan this year and I was actually telling her to come with me a few times, but she told me that she couldn’t afford to travel to Japan yet. "When I got the chance to buy cheap roundtrip tickets, I informed her briefly but I went ahead and booked for myself. Of course, she was understandably upset." His Japanese getaway will last one week and he appears to be travelling solo for the trip. The couple have been together for five years and the poster said his 25-year-old girlfriend told him she felt like he "didn't include her" in the "impulsive" decision. "She also told me that it hurts not being able to have the capability of traveling with me," said the boyfriend. "I told her that I understand, and I’m sorry for being selfish, but I wanted to take this urge to travel solo even though she couldn’t come. "I also let her know that we can travel to other places in the future when circumstances allow us to. I truly understand where my girlfriend is coming from… Now I feel really guilty of what I’ve done and I’m thinking of not going anymore. "It’s really tough for me because of course, I want to share these experiences with her but I also wanted to really pursue this trip for myself, even though I’m alone." He reasoned that this was a dream holiday (stock image) ( Image: Getty Images/iStockphoto) Comments were split as many felt his actions didn't make put him in the wrong but others thought he was being unkind to his girlfriend and had even ruined the relationship. One said: "You found cheap tickets and went and booked them with no discussion with your girlfriend. Maybe with an actual discussion you and your girlfriend could have found a way she could go with you. "Relationships are meant to be a partnership. You discuss and make decisions like this together. You don't just book tickets for yourself and say bye bye I'm off for a few weeks/months." Another added: "Not for wanting to travel solo. That’s understandable, and I know many people who travelled solo even once married. You’re the a*****e for how you went about it and not having a collaborative discussion." "Put yourself in her shoes. You’ve booked this big trip on a whim, knowing that she can’t afford to come with you," a third person advised. "You’ve then said that hopefully you’d be able to travel to other places in the future, when circumstances allow. "Honestly, I’m not surprised you feel guilty. And my advice would be to postpone things because given all of this, are you likely to even enjoy the trip anymore? Or will you just feel guilty the whole time?" Some defended him, saying: "Not the a*****e. Yeah that will feel tough on her. Feeling 'together' is part of a relationship, so if this challenges that feeling, I feel bad for her. However no one is an a*****e." "While I understand her being upset you shouldn’t exactly feel guilty," argued someone else. "You can travel alone, and while I get she would want to be included and it can be rough to see others get to do things you can’t, that is not your fault." Do you have a story to share? We pay for stories. Email us at yourmirror@mirror.co.uk Read More That's So Raven star wants
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