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Like most gay boys I had my sexual awakening at the underwear section of a department store. Most of the men in question were merely headless torsos with chiseled abdomens and sock-stuffed packages. Sometimes you’d shamefully lock eyes with
David Beckham or Dan Carter as they caught you attempting to be nonchalant while you parade by your mother’s hand.
From a young age you understood that sex sells, but over the next 10 to 15 years you’d come to see that sexual attraction is only ever associated with a very specific physique that wasn’t always replicated in real life’s design.