A man is helping transform their lives by getting sexy. Ben Nordmann, 34, works with
Women and couples as a supportive escort via Kaufmich.com and . He also works as an online content creator, filmmaker and photographer. He's worked in the sexy profession for a little over a year, and has dedicated the past four years to exploring, preparing for and planning his specialised work. But he wanted his personal ethics to remain at the heart of what he does. He's also committed to being eco-friendly, and began this by developing an awareness of humans and the planet’s resources. He wants to support other people, and our natural surroundings.
Friends and designers from the past, such as Victor Papanek, helped to shape his attitudes as a designer, sex worker and human. He said reducing your carbon footprint and living an eco-friendly life is important, but everyone needs to first address their social aims – changing how we think, behave, consume and value the things and people around us. He managed to incorporate this in his work to ensure he was doing a lot of good for people in more ways than one, and he . Now he's opened up about just how he helps women regain their identity and confidence. Speaking exclusively to the Daily Star, Ben said: "Women who feel disconnected from their sexuality often come to me for positive sexual and sensual moments that support their self-esteem. My clients are typically aged between 26 and 68 years old and come from a diverse range of backgrounds. "Women usually want to feel empowered – they might be battling insecurities and want to reconnect with their bodies and desires. My first client was a 26-year-old woman who couldn’t open up to men after experiencing
Sexual Abuse. "She found me on a app but wanted to meet in a professional context because this made her feel more at ease. That’s why I believe ‘supportive escorts’ who are informed/experienced in human psychology (including triggers, traumas, and what helps people feel safe) are so important. "They are best suited to sensitive dates. I also meet with women and couples who want to explore their sexuality and try new things - I support them if they’re looking to spice up their sexual activity. However, the majority of clients do want to tackle insecurities caused by negative sexual experiences in their past." As for what the average day is like for Ben, he said they vary, as he has lots of different side-hustles and a wide range of clients. He's always excited to connect with new people, and works in a way that's considered to be "socially sustainable". By talking to one another, and developing a deeper understanding of people’s needs, he claims we can move towards a "more eco-friendly, conscious and engaged way of living". He added: "In my escorting work I try to be easily accessible in terms of financing, offering various payment options, which make my services accessible to people in difficult situations. These options include a reduced hourly rate which is financed by regularly paying customers, instalments, referral commissions, spontaneous date alarms with reduced travel costs and more. "I am also allowing my female clients to share their service experiences in my ‘trusted guest’ programme. This way, any potential clients who are unsure can ask questions and hear directly from people who have already met with me. "Finally, I’m focusing on practicing inclusivity in my services and film/photography. I try to see people as they are, and I give them a respectful space to explore their sensuality. I help to develop my customers’ confidence, allowing them to enjoy a richer and more empowered life. "This is mirrored in my life as a content creator – I capture pure and real bodies for their unique greatness, contributing to a more diverse, respectful idea of beauty." As for how things are changing in the industry, Ben admitted he's seeing more sex workers go digital, which he thinks is good. He thinks it's an "accessible" alternative way for people to communicate, but he notes it can limit the personal element too. He also opened up about how he thinks the "ideal body" stereotypes need to change to celebrate diverse bodies, ages, abilities and genders. Ben is glad to see there's a growing interest among men in becoming supportive escorts, and he's happy to share his knowledge with them. Ben continued: "Overall, the industry is becoming more diverse whilst celebrating body diversity and people all over the world are becoming more accepting of sex work, which is brilliant to see, but there is still a lot to work on, including political situations and the safety of workers and clients. "We must speak out, ask questions, care for our planet, value equality and work together to do better."